So What Are We Doing Wrong??

Too many of my friends, myself included seem to be having the same problem:- The Men Are Jerks Syndrome. Smart, capable & beautiful; we seem to be having problems finding Mr or Miss Right. Although we all have fabulous circles of friends & doting families, I've been presented the same problem of the Men Are Jerks Syndrome over & over again. And this horrible disease seems to be spreading faster than highschool gossip. It affects my friends & their friends from all the different stages of my life so far, even including the fabulous little boys.

Mostly at the 20 something age range, we are all having difficulty meeting and holding on to that special someone. Believe it or not, all that zest for partying & being social has been subdued by commitments to family, friends & work. Throw in a fitness regiment & there's barely time to shoe shopping, yet alone man-hunting. Sure some lucky b*tches like Wil (of Confetti in the Wind fame) has landed his fanciful sex-on-tap boyfriend, but for many of us, finding a decent-looking trustable man, with a heart of gold, who is on the same wavelength in damn near impossible.

No, we aren't choosy. Its not that we want a trophy-partner, a sugar daddy or even a guardian angel. We just want someone witty, presentable, trustable & thrusting, i.e a equal. Standards are important because blindly following your heart can lead to disaster. For the example, the guy I hate with a passion, F*ck Face The Fugly (Its not that he is fugly on the outside, its that inside he is a manupulative & calculative 2 bit cross-eyed whore). He used to change boyfriends almost monthly. Once he even got attached to a guy who he knew was already in a serious relationship. Like a bitch in heat he sniffs drama out & whines about it constantly. Unlike him, we don't need to add to the drama of our lives.

Even with our high standards, we try to help Mr or Ms Right get to us. We all have tried numerous ways of meeting people including going to places of religious worship, networking functions, gyms, weddings, parties, bars, lounges, & discos. But we only end up with jerks, or messy situations; or worst of all no response. Then there are speed dating, online chatrooms, dating profile sites, & blogs, which do work. But so far, just not for us.

Some of us have unadmitedly given up hope, & prepare ourselves for a companion-less future. Some are so scared of emotional scars, they panic & subconciously sabotage our own relationship. Although being indefinately single has its perks, we all could use some tenderness to help us sleep better. So what are we doing wrong?

As I sit here watching TV
The memories come seeping slowly
A swig of drink
A puff of smoke
And I wonder where all the smoke goes
You're so far far away...

Far far away from me...
As hold my guitar painfully
For no tune or melody comes to me
I fell down on my knees and prayed
Hoping someone hears me but,
On deaf ears falls my plea

The nails are slowly closing in,
And my soul captured within
Soon the flood and I are one
As I look outside a new day has begun

Untitled~ Written by a fellow victim of Men Are Jerks Syndrome